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Conflict Resolution Education

by Diane Gold on August 2, 2016.

This article focuses on conflict resolution education and how we need it as early as our first days in school.

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Eastern And Western Medicine – The Hole

by Diane Gold on April 26, 2016.

Today’s issue focuses on Eastern And Western Medicine and the HOLE between them that exists because of lack of integration – and how to fix it.

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Homeless – How We Can Help

by Diane Gold on April 5, 2016.

Today’s issue focuses on being homeless and how we truly don’t think about situations until we are in them.

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Rebirth – She Not Busy Being Born Is Busy Dying

by Diane Gold on March 22, 2016.

It’s doing well Diane Gold. Lovin’ it and grateful.

Today’s issue focuses on rebirth, cathartic experience, becoming new again and again and again. This one was inspired by my dancing for 2 1/2 hours at a 5Rhythms dance workshop.

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Party Time – Saying Hello Again – Feeling Good – Out Of Danger

by Diane Gold on March 8, 2016.

It’s doing well Diane Gold, 1000% better than last time I wrote. I wanted to say hello again, thank you for reading my last issue, and let you know I am feeling good. Breathing normally and strong. Still and forever living each moment as it comes. Don’t know why I’m better; don’t know why I was sick. Lovin’ it and grateful.

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Diane Gold – Saying Hello One Last Time

by Diane Gold on January 19, 2016.

It’s Diane Gold. I wanted to say hello one last time This may be my last mag, although I hope to write when I can.

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Supply Chain Transparency

by Diane Gold on December 15, 2015.

Our main essay talks about supply chain transparency. Most of the time, we don’t think about what goes into a product we use. Kudos to California for having a required disclosure of awareness.

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Habits Formed By Our Belief Systems

by Diane Gold on November 17, 2015.

Our main essay talks about belief systems and the habits we form and can reform along the way.

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Recycling Is Our Responsibility

by Diane Gold on October 13, 2015.

Our main essay talks about recycling, why we do it and whose responsibility it is.

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Conventional Produce – GMOs And Pesticides

by Diane Gold on October 6, 2015.

Our main essay talks about the term “conventional produce” and how it blinds us to the GMOs that are commonly included in this category.

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Abuser – Why We Abuse

by Diane Gold on September 29, 2015.

Our main essay talks about people who are the abuser and why we abuse.

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Abused At Home – Why We Allow It

by Diane Gold on September 22, 2015.

Our main essay talks about those of us who are abused at home and why some of us do not remove ourselves from the situation.

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Water Shortage: Our Role

by Diane Gold on March 17, 2015.

Our main essay talks about water shortage and why we are involved, no matter how much water we have.

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Learning How To Learn: Our Biggest Mistake

by Diane Gold on March 10, 2015.

Our main essay talks about learning how to learn, the mistake we make by not teaching the process as soon as we start school.

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Extinction: Are We Responsible?

by Diane Gold on February 24, 2015.

Our main essay talks about extinction and our responsibility through a guest post by Richard Oppenlander, D.D.S., researcher, lecturer and author.

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6 Ways To Be More Productive And Love It More

by Diane Gold on January 20, 2015.

Our main essay talks about 6 ways to get productive and be gloriously happy while producing.

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Making A Difference In 2015

by Diane Gold on January 6, 2015.

Our main essay talks about how everything we do is making a difference. The author lists what’s possible and mentions food labeling, wearing sustainable clothing, as well as topics important to her.

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The Secret Of Habit Change Is To Step

by Diane Gold on December 9, 2014.

Our main essay talks about the secret of habit change, which is to step, make that move, do.

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A Simple Behavior Change Strategy

by Diane Gold on December 2, 2014.

Our main essay talks about what causes our urges and a simple behavior change strategy.

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WarriorsofWeight.Com Water Campaign For Thanksgiving

by Diane Gold on November 18, 2014.

Our discussion today is to announce our water campaign. Together, we can build 1 single well that can provide for 500-1,000 people with 10 years of water. Please take a minute to ponder this one. Anyone who donates can have…at no charge.

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Be Someone’s Vitamin: How Kindness Can Save Us

by Diane Gold on November 11, 2014.

Our main essay talks about how the act of kindness saves us from the act of rushing.

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Think Life Sucks? 10 Things That May Not

by Diane Gold on November 4, 2014.

Our main essay talks about 10 things that may not suck in the life of someone who thinks life sucks.

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Being A Material Girl: Not I

by Diane Gold on October 28, 2014.

Our main essay talks about whether we choose to be material and pursue money in the hierarchical system or if we decide to focus on a life of freedom that works on spiritual benefits first.

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How To Replace A Habit

by Diane Gold on October 14, 2014.

Our main essay talks about how to replace a habit. Easier than we think, even if it’s been excruciating in the past!

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Big Food And Drug Donate To Cancer Research

by Diane Gold on September 30, 2014.

Our main essay talks about donations that Big Food and Big Drug companies give to cancer research and other disease organizations so they will become beholden to them.

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9 Ways Cacao Can Improve Our Health

by Diane Gold on September 9, 2014.

Our main essay talks about how cacao, the super food, first used by Latin Americans as early as 1400 B.C. E., benefits our health.

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The Habit Of Meditation: The True Mission

by Diane Gold on August 19, 2014.

Our main essay talks about the habit of meditation and what it truly does for us.

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Inflated Ego At The Expense Of Others

by Diane Gold on August 12, 2014.

Our main essay talks about how, sometimes, our inflated ego can be cruel in order to cover up our own insecurities.

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Prejudice Is A Habit We Can Replace

by Diane Gold on August 5, 2014.

Our main essay talks about how prejudice is a habit and how that habit can be replaced with a new and more useful one.

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Turmeric In The Modern World

by Diane Gold on July 29, 2014.

Our main essay is about turmeric, its benefits and its patentability and why drug companies don’t study what they can’t patent.

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What If Nike’s Logo Meant Food For The Poor?

by Diane Gold on July 22, 2014.

Our main essay focuses on a “what if” scenario. “What if” the largest multinational companies’ missions were to benefit the world’s poor with food, water, clothing, housing, health care! This article suggests a possible model for this to happen. It also offers food for thought to encourage us to innovate the solution for ourselves.on patient’s rights and how our accepting doctor’s orders is not in our best interest until we’ve researched options and been given choices.

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Patient Rights vs. Doctor’s Orders

by Diane Gold on July 15, 2014.

Our main essay focuses on patient rights and how our accepting doctor’s orders is not in our best interest until we’ve researched options and been given choices.

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The World Is Flat: A Perception Of Truth

by Diane Gold on July 8, 2014.

Our main essay mentions a concept we used to believe and how we have moved to believe our current perception. It offers the reason for presenting new information to people so that they can evolve their thinking.
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Our Habits Of Trusting Media: 5 Mistakes We Make

by Diane Gold on July 1, 2014.

Our main essay talks about trusting media and the mistakes we make by not recognizing relationships that deter most media companies and their employees from reporting the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

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Profit From Peace-The Peace Industry TV Show

by Diane Gold on June 24, 2014.

Our main essay talks about making profit from peace, rather than war, and proposes a competition based TV show to generate investors.

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Our Right To Freedom-What If Big Biz Sues To Repeal Vermont’s GMO Labeling Law?

by Diane Gold on June 17, 2014.

Our main essay is about how to stand up for our right to freedom using the example of the GMO labeling vote in Vermont.

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When We Delay Gratification…

by Diane Gold on June 10, 2014.

Our main essay is about the process of delaying gratification, how it’s done, when we might decide to do it and what it builds in our foundation.

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Citizens For Change: No More Status Quo GMOs

by Diane Gold on May 27, 2014.

Our main essay is about taking action toward protecting our food supply from genetic modified organisms (GMOs).

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Ignoring Conflicts Of Interest In Health Care

by Diane Gold on Apr. 1, 2014.

Our main essay is about many of the conflicts of interest that cause some of the fractures in our health care system and how we are NOT doomed.

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The Habit Of Peaceful Conflict Resolution

by Diane Gold on Mar. 25, 2014.

Our main essay is one of my favorites. It’s about cultivating peaceful methods to resolve conflict and how our actions may affect the future of peace.

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How Slouching Destroys Health

by Diane Gold on Mar. 18, 2014.

This week’s main essay is about how slouching really destroys our health. Who knew?

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The Real Scoop On The Health Care Law!

by Diane Gold on Feb. 18, 2014.

Our main essay talks about the health care law and how it may cause people to work less as W-2 employees.

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The Number One Method For Habit Change

by Diane Gold on Feb. 11, 2014.

Our essay delivers the simplest, universal formula for how to change a habit. This was inspired by my talk at the Women Referring Women luncheon.

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The Manipulation Of Evidence-Based Medicine

by Diane Gold on February 4, 2014.

Our main essay shares many of the ways in which evidence-based medicine can be manipulated. (It also thanks those who are honest and noble in the industry.)

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Habits In Medical Care-Part 3: Ready For Change?

by Diane Gold on Jan. 14, 2014.

Our main essay is the third installment of habits in medical care.

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How Personal Development Can Change The World

by Diane Gold on Jan. 7, 2014.

This week, our main essay talks about personal development and how it can change the world.

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Habit Change: Our New Year’s Resolution

by Diane Gold on Dec. 31, 2013.

Our Happy New Year main essay is about habit change and New Year’s resolution and, of course, success.

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The Habit Of Forgiveness: How To Forgive Even When It Seems Impossible

by Diane Gold on Dec. 24, 2013.

This week, our main essay talks about developing the habit of forgiveness and how to go about it even when it seems impossible.

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Habit Change: Solving Not Complaining

by Diane Gold on Dec. 17, 2013.

This week, our main essay talks about how we complain, exclusive of solving, and the importance of solutions.

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Hidden Clinical Trials

by Diane Gold on Dec. 3, 2013.

This week, our main essay talks about clinical trials that are not reported. We rarely question this since we are in the habit of not questioning what doctors or medical professionals say.

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Are You An Enabler, Codependent On A User?

by Diane Gold on Nov. 26, 2013.

This week, our main essay talks about being an enabler, someone so wrapped up in a user’s behavior, it’s bad news for both people.

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Habitual Behavior Develops Valuable Skills

by Diane Gold on Nov. 19, 2013.

This week, our main essay talks about how, through learning how to maintain our habitual behavior, we develop very valuable skills that are beneficial to us and to the world.
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The Habit Of Gratitude And 100 Ways To Feel It

by Diane Gold on Oct. 22, 2013.

This week we are publishing our 100th Issue, which means we are celebrating our Second Anniversary. Therefore, we have a special main essay which is a list of 100 things that may make us feel gratitude.

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3 Habit Changes That Turn Sickness Into Health!

by Diane Gold on Oct. 14, 2013.

This week, our main essay offers three habit changes that turn sickness into health.
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Social Influence, Habit Change And What’s Missing!

by Diane Gold on Oct. 7, 2013.

This week, we bring you our main essay about groups that influence habit change and what’s missing from many of them.

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The One Secret To Habit Change: Get It And Use It!

by Diane Gold on Sept. 30, 2013.

This week, we bring you the one secret to habit change.

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The 5 Biggest Mistakes Of Habit Change

by Diane Gold on Sept. 23, 2013.

This week, we bring you THE mistakes of habit change that seem universal to humans. From these come the commandments to change a habit.

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Demystifying Traditional Chinese Medicine

by Diane Gold on Sept. 16, 2013.

This week, we bring you the highlights of our interview with George Love, Doctor Of Oriental Medicine who demystifies it for all of us.

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Can Gut Microbes Help With Weight Loss?

by Diane Gold on Sept. 9, 2013.

This week, our main article focuses on a study about gut microorganisms as a possible technique for weight loss.

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The Benefits Of Forgiveness And Revenge

by Diane Gold on Sept. 2, 2013.

This week, our main article focuses on our ability to temper our forgiveness and our revenge.

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Our Path To Happiness: Do Our Genes Know Before We Do?

by Diane Gold on Aug. 26, 2013.

This week, our main article focuses on how the significance of how we achieve happiness is detected and processed by our genes to our benefit or our detriment.

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Reading Food And Supplement Labels: How Habits Form

by Diane Gold on Aug. 19, 2013.

This week, our main article focuses on food and supplement labels and how we form habits as a result.

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Habit Masters; We Are

by Diane Gold on Aug. 12, 2013.

This week, our main article focuses on the idea that we are habit masters from all the training we have given ourselves with various life behaviors. There are 12 proposed action steps.

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Health Care Costs: Statistics And Solutions

by Diane Gold on Aug. 5, 2013.

This week, our main article talks about the cost of health care. There are 11 possible action steps.

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Are You Liberated? And What That Means For Habit Change

by Diane Gold on July 29, 2013.

This week, our main article talks about personal liberation and what it means for habit change. There are 10 action steps.

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The One Necessary Success Habit Anyone Can Learn: And How To Develop It!

by Diane Gold on July 15, 2013.

This week, our main article talks about one habit that successful people all know about. Almost anyone can learn it through our action steps, included.

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Habits In Medical Care, Part Two: Pay That Bill!

by Diane Gold on June 24, 2013.

This week, our main article focuses on habits in medical care: autopaying our bills.

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The Biggest Habit, The Inflexible Mind: 3 Scenarios

by Diane Gold on June 17, 2013.

This week, our main article focuses on THE habit of the mind: inflexibility and three scenarios to recognize.

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Why Change A Habit? Your Legacy Awaits

by Diane Gold on May 27, 2013.

This week, our main article focuses on why to change a habit and how that ties to our legacy.

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Changing Food Habits: Are You Eating GMOs, Organic Foods Or …?

by Diane Gold on May 20, 2013.

This week, our main article focuses on changing our food habits as we have more knowledge of GMOs (genetically modified organisms) and foods that are labeled “organic.”

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Guru, Master & Mentor: Are You In The Habit Of Verifying The Title?

by Diane Gold on Apr. 29, 2013.

This week, our main article focuses on the use of the words “guru, master and mentor.”

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Tai Chi, Walking & Other Fitness Training:Turning Exercise Into Habit

by Diane Gold on Apr. 22, 2013.

This week, our main article focuses on fitness exercises and how we train them. Tai chi is first in the title in honor of World Tai Chi Day, Saturday.

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The Peace Process Formula: Phase 3

by Diane Gold on Apr. 15, 2013.

This week, our main article focuses on the peace process formula. It is the third installment in the series.

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Women As Slaves: How To Change This Habit

by Diane Gold on Apr. 8, 2013.

This week, our main article focuses on women as slaves and how we change this habit.

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What Martial Art … Helps Change A Habit?

by Diane Gold on Apr. 1, 2013.

This week, our main article focuses on tai chi and how tai chi principle can help change a habit.

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Martial Arts Of The Mind

by Diane Gold on Mar. 25, 2013.

This week, our main article is about martial arts of the mind. This article transpired as a discussion for a kung fu student who needed to understand that the physical exercises are the tools for the accomplishments of the mind. This article is a reminder of that truth.

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The Gender Issue

by Diane Gold on Mar. 4, 2013.

This week, our main article talks about the gender issue as it relates to women.

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Peace Needs A Bridge: How To Build It And Keep It Open

by Diane Gold on Feb. 25, 2013.

This week, our main article talks about the fact that Peace needs a bridge in order to make it real.

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How To Change A Habit By Realizing Our Luxuries

by Diane Gold on Feb. 18, 2013.

This week, we have an article about how to change a habit by realizing how much we have.

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Turning Habits Into Health: How 1 Step At A Time Can Make The Change

by Diane Gold on Jan. 28, 2013.

This week, we talk about Turning Habits Into Health and the 1-step at a time approach to habit change.

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Water For Weight Loss, Emotional Eating Turned To Healthy Hydration

by Diane Gold on Jan. 14, 2013.

This week, we talk about how drinking water can temper food cravings habitually. We also consider that water is not in abundance for all people.

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Food Cravings: How To Maximize Them For Our Good Health

by Diane Gold on Jan. 7, 2013.

First issue in 2013, and we are raring to go!

This week’s article talks about maximizing our food cravings so that we can be healthier.

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Crossroads: Successfully Choosing The Way We Make Decisions

by Diane Gold on Dec. 24, 2012.

This week’s article talks about crossroads and the ways we handle them when they come.

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Appetite Control: How Saving Someone Other Than Ourselves Balances Appetite

by Diane Gold on Dec. 17, 2012.

This week’s article talks about the appetite and how saving someone other than ourselves can balance our appetite.

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The Peace Process Formula: Phase 2

by Diane Gold on Dec. 10, 2012.

Our main article offers phase 2 of the peace process formula begun last week. It has great promise, so it would be great if you would participate.

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The Peace Process: A Step-By-Step Formula To Achieve Peace And Replace Overeating At The Same Time

by Diane Gold on Dec. 3, 2012.

This issue is dedicated to my father who passed 49 years ago yesterday at age 49. To Harry!

Our main article offers a strategy for the peace process whose doing can reduce one’s weight by the very focus of the activity.

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Belief In Self: 5 Ways To Create Belief

by Diane Gold on September 24, 2012.

This week’s main article is about Belief In Self and how it is possible to create this belief through a 5 simple techniques.

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Writing For Weight Loss: A Way To Curb Our Urge To Eat

by Diane Gold on August 27, 2012.

This week’s main article is about Writing For Weight Loss. The idea is that when we are writing, we are focused on writing.

There’s also a link to get your own blog within 15 minutes.

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Giving To Charity Can Help Our Daughters With Weight

by Diane Gold on August 13, 2012.

Last week, our main article mentioned freecycling. This week, our main article is about charity and how it can help our daughters look outside themselves.

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Moving To A New House: 3 Ways Changing Our Routine Gives Us Big Opportunity

by Diane Gold on August 6, 2012.

As a treat, we offer 3 life-changing action steps that are so simple, even though they are right under our very noses on a daily basis. And, yes, our main article, as promised, is about moving.

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Peace And Prejudice: How The Key To Peace Is The Same As The Key To Weight Loss

by Diane Gold on June 4, 2012.

Our main article is about how the uncontrollable urges to eat are like the irrational prejudices we have for other people.

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Preparing To Thrive With Food Addiction: How Tai Chi Mind Readies Us For Change

by Diane Gold on May 21, 2012.

Our featured essay is about preparation. There are always start up steps when we embark on a new program. We are so driven to start our new meal plan that we sometimes forget to prepare.

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Motivation: 5 Ways We Renew It, But Do They Really Work?

by Diane Gold on May 14, 2012.

Our featured essay is about motivation and the things we do to get it. When must we change circumstances; when must we change ourselves?

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Tai Chi: How Tai Chi Can Position Us To Change The World

by Diane Gold on April 23, 2012.

Because World Tai Chi And Chi Kung Day is this coming Saturday, April 28, our main article talks about its true purpose, and, more than that, the real mission of doing tai chi. This is an impactful subject, and comments are requested.

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CREATING POWER: 5 OPPORTUNITIES TO BUILD IT AND KEEP IT (Issue 22)

by Diane Gold

Many of us, on an hourly basis, let distractions lead us into the temptation of walking off our path. We see a recipe we like and start reading about it; we turn on the weather channel to see if it will rain and end up watching 15 minutes of TV. We see a headline on some news source and read, and read, and read and read. Online, we click for reference material and read 5 more things. All while we are working on another task.

When I sat down to write this very article, it was 2 hours later than when I planned to start. Hand feeding my courageous cat, pondering global energy and catching up on some internet reading actions that got me off my intended schedule. Valid they were, but they took me off my schedule. In this article, we will explore together five of the most common ways we give away our power which, of course, we need to accomplish our goals.

ANSWERING OUR PHONE FROM KNOWN CALLERS

One of the greatest distractions in our lives is the phone. We rarely turn it off.
Unless we are life and death workers; it’s a safe bet to say that it is not necessary at all times of the day. There are many reasons we answer it when we are busy:

1) We don’t care about the work we are doing.
2) We want a distraction or socialization.
3) We have little self-worth and believe that whomever is calling won’t call back because we are not that important.

True phone story: Years ago, I recall saying no to my dad, Harry, when I was 13, when he asked me to go see The Guns Of Navaronne with him. I said no because I was waiting by the phone for one of the girls in my group to call and invite me to go downtown. The result of my having said no was that my father went to the movies on his own, the girls never called me which hurt my feelings, I hurt my father’s feelings and he passed before there was another movie opportunity (his photo left).
I’m not suggesting we always have to say yes; far from it. I am remembering the sequence of events that ensued from my shaky self-worth and misplaced priorities.

So, the bottom line is that the phone can stop us from completing our goals by stealing our focus. Just because it rings, we don’t have to answer it. We become powerful when we realize this.

ANSWERING AN UNKNOWN CALLER

This type of phone call has its own category because it is an opportunity for big power, a gift in disguise. Here’s how.

Let’s say, we respect people who work on a commission job, like the people who might call unannounced, so we won’t flat out hang up on them. But we do answer, even though we are busy, in the middle of work, leisure, play, homework or zoning out. Here’s a sample script of how to pull the power out on these calls:

D(iane): Good day.

M(arketer): Good day. It’s Tammi Tune. I’d like to talk to you about a new weight management program we have just opened up.

[Here comes the power.]

D: Do you have an appointment?

[Immediately, we own the conversation. And we make M realize we are busy, breathing, warm humans who have lives other than answering the phone for marketers. Then M is more respectful. ]

M: No, my company wanted to save you money on fresh water for your home.

D: I’m not available now. I appreciate the call, though.
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Or if s/he asks for us by name when we answer the phone,
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D: Good day.

M: Good day. It’s Tammi Tune. Is Diane Gold available?

D: That would depend. Do you have an appointment, Tammi?

M: I wanted to share something wonderful about our new collection of meditation robes.

D: Thank you so much for the call. I’m not available now.
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We can always choose to listen to the pitch or schedule a call back time. We can also give the caller 30 seconds to pitch us.

But, it’s our choice. We are in charge of whether to answer our phone and how far to go.

ACTION STEP

Schedule times when we are available to take calls. We can still choose to ignore a call. Most phones have an ignore button. Same for texts and emails.

CUSTOMER SERVICE AND TECH SUPPORT REPS

Have you ever noticed that for many of our home services, like telephone, electric, tech support; we are on hold for lots of time? Those of us who cannot relate to this may be too young to have handled this type of call or may pay other people to make the calls.

Most of us have called customer service or tech support reps. And we wait. And wait. With music we have not chosen in a genre that is not to our liking. Every minute we wait costs us time. If we bill at $100 per hour (round number example) and hold for 22 minutes, we have just given up $22, and, still pay the company for a service.

ACTION STEP

Currently, we must plan to be on hold. Before we call any service or tech rep, we must schedule work simultaneous to the call. This way, we will accomplish our work and not waste our time on hold. And we will feel happy and powerful.
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It is important to remind the rep that our time is worth money and that it is unfair for us to pay the company and work for the company by being on hold for no pay. We own the conversation, and we teach reps to be considerate.

Norton usually gives us an extra month of internet security service to compensate for hold time, though it usually equals the $5 an hour rate. Some type of compensation should be the norm, not the exception.

It is also important that we make it clear, when our issue can’t be resolved in the current phone call, we are not available in our busy schedule (even if we are lounging around doing nothing) to call back. Why would we, as customers, who pay for goods and services have to call the company back, which would be working for the company without getting paid? Very often, when customer service and tech reps boss us around, they are reading scripts. We must smile and take charge.

NAME CALLING

We each have some characteristic worthy of being called a name by some mindless twit who, at that moment, does not have a drop of empathy. I am reminded of the construction worker next door who, when I asked if I could walk through the house he was working on my sick cat who needed medicine was lost, said,

“That’s your problem.”

To give myself power, which I didn’t really have because the gates to the yard where I wanted to look were locked and I was not going to fight the worker for access; I imagined that the worker got locked in the house, his phone battery went dead and he asked for my help through the window.

I said, “I think that’s your problem. Oh, wait. That’s what you would say. I’m not a jarhead like you, so I will help you.”

Forgive them for they know not what they do is easier said than done. It’s tough to forgive when people hurt us. We must muster up power to do it.

The first thing to do when people call us names is – no, not go into our room and sulk – go change our perspective. Emotions are like reflexes. They show up after certain actions affect us. They are actually biological reactions to situations. So they are not right nor wrong. They just are. So how do we grab our power?

ACTION STEPS

Our first action is to look in the mirror, throw ourselves a big kiss and tell ourselves we are awesome. No matter what!

Our second action step is to go talk it out with someone, anyone. The power comes to us from changing our perspective and not dwelling on the words of some blockhead at school or work or in the street. If we don’t have an available friend, we can go to the library, the local food mart, the closest religious structure, the grocery store, the café. There are lots of people just waiting to listen to us. It will create more power when we approach them.
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REACHING OUR GOAL

On the road to reaching our goal, whether it’s to lose weight, gain friends, become vegan to balance weight issues, eradicate hunger or learn to sing; there are always potholes, bad weather and trials on the way to success. And there are many successes on the goal highway.

ACTION STEP

Here is THE effective action step that will serve us all well no matter what our road looks like:

Notice that we are more powerful for having begun our journey. No matter how many mudslides we encounter, we as a remarkable human being can create new ways to maneuver the twists and turns of the way to reaching our goal, moreso, because we have begun.

CONCLUSION

There are many ways to create power in ourselves. The more we do it, the better we get at it, and the more confidence we will have because we will be experienced power creators. These 5 opportunities consist of three everyday occurrences, two that come up from time to time. The more practice we get at stepping up to being powerful, the more natural it will become, and the more it will creatively arrive in a variety of situations.

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DIANE GOLD, AUTHOR

Diane Gold, Founder of Warriors of Weight, Moms For Healthy Daughters, is a mentor in tai chi, kung fu and meditation, a music and stress expert and a dedicated mom. She has learned through her kung fu, tai chi and music training that repetition can change our framework. She says, “The way we used to handle a situation becomes obsolete when we become familiar with a better way. Further, what used to make us uncomfortable, with repetition, becomes comfortable and easy. “